Chances are, if you’re reading this you either already have plans for Valentine’s day, you are frantically googling keywords like “free” “cheap” “quick” “romantic” “ideas” “help”, or you have decided to boycott the whole day entirely. Whichever it is for you, I think we can all agree that Valentine’s day needs some help. Here are some things to keep in mind to make sure that today is not lame, but could actually be a sweet memory.
A few years back, a couple friends and I decided to do some inner-work on our egos. As an exercise in self-discovery and awareness we mapped out genograms, took a few personality tests, spent time in meditation, and read a couple books. What I discovered about myself was PAINFUL. My ego, or shadow as Pete Scazzero calls it, is an enemy of God. It is selfish, competitive, emotionally detached, and destructive.
If you’re anything like me, you probably spent a lot of time as a young person asking this question, wondering when and where you’d meet “the one”. Growing up in the church and our relationally romanticized pop-culture, my entire life system guided me in the belief that if I was faithful and patient, God would one day bless me with someone He made special just for me. This woman would possess every trait that I have ever prayed for. She would be a perfect match for me, understand me better than anyone, and of course fulfill my sexual desires. This person would be my other half, my “soul-mate” that God destined me to be with from the beginning.