The reality is singleness provides one with more time. But my encouragement to you is this: Don’t waste the extra time. Instead, wasting it on video games and Netflix, use this time to discover who you are, determine who you want to become, and make progress to get there.
If you’re anything like me, you probably spent a lot of time as a young person asking this question, wondering when and where you’d meet “the one”. Growing up in the church and our relationally romanticized pop-culture, my entire life system guided me in the belief that if I was faithful and patient, God would one day bless me with someone He made special just for me. This woman would possess every trait that I have ever prayed for. She would be a perfect match for me, understand me better than anyone, and of course fulfill my sexual desires. This person would be my other half, my “soul-mate” that God destined me to be with from the beginning.
As a young man, I was often posed these kinds of hypothetical types of scenarios surrounding a lot of things, superpowers, women and marriage… and sex. As young man, especially because I was raised in the church, I was often led to believe that marriage becomes a no limits, free-for-all of sexual enjoyment and pleasure.