Confessions Of A Comparison Addict pt. 2

Hi again. My name is still David, and I’m still a comparison addict, but that is not my identity.

I have come to realize that comparison is largely an identity issue. It is an issue of not standing firm in my identity as a beloved child of God.

Every day you wake up you enter the war for your identity. You have a million things telling you who you are and who you are not. The advertising industry is centered around telling you that you are lacking and need something added to your life to be truly fulfilled.  In addition to this relentless bombardment of advertisement is our fast-paced society. It is exceptionally difficult to slow down and remind yourself, as well as to have God remind you, that your identity is in being a child of a God who loves you for who you are and not what you do. This is the main point I want us to come away with in this post:

Comparison stands in the way of fully living into your identity.

It tells you lies about your worth. This is why comparison is an unhealthy habit to have present in your life, and most people don’t even recognize the damage comparison can cause if kept un-dealt with. Comparison is an attack on knowing your true identity.

As followers of Jesus, we can rest in the fact that we are beloved children of God. The fruit of standing firm in this identity is joy. But when we allow our identity to be attacked by comparison, our joy therefore is also robbed. When you feel less than you who are, joy goes out the window.

I write this from my own experience. The times in which I have said no to comparing myself to others, and said yes to finding my identity in being a child of God, have been seasons marked by joy. But in seasons when I have not held onto being a child of God, and instead said yes to allowing comparison to become a habit in my life, joy diminished. Joy was replaced by insecurity (“I hope others don’t see that Jon is much better than me”), anger (“I hate that I am not as good as Jon. God why did you not create me like you created Jon?”), and depression (“I wish I was as good as Jon. Actually, I wish I was Jon. I don’t like who I am”).  

This is why in “Confessions of a Comparison Addict Part 1” I gave the final encouragement to take our comparison to God and ask Him to remind us of our identity as followers of Jesus: we are His beloved children. I gave that practical exercise when we experience comparison because comparison is ultimately an identity issue. You can see yourself not holding to your identity in Jesus because of comparison. When you are holding to your true identity, comparison has no place.

In the third and final post on “Confessions of a Comparison Addict” I will be writing about my struggle with comparing my gifts/talents with that of others, as well as my journey – an on-going journey – of coming to peace with how God has uniquely created me.

I hope you will find it helpful!

Your fellow journeyer,

David Beavis


Eating lots of food and looking at pictures of puppies are couple of ingredients to David's perfect day. The driving passion of David's life is walking alongside people as they figure out what it means to follow Jesus today. David holds a B.A. in Psychology from Vanguard University and an M.A. in Theology from Talbot School of Theology. He currently works at Mariners Church in Irvine on the High School Ministry team. He lives is Costa Mesa, California.